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Some Flames Never Die
As humans, we all make mistakes and have things or people in our pasts that we would like to forget. Sometimes we want to get away from those feelings and need a fresh start. We may even move to a new city to get a fresh start. We tell ourselves that we have learned from our mistakes and we are in turn better, stronger, and happier people because of our past mistakes. So why does it seem that sometimes our past lives come back to bite us.
It could be a song, a smell, a piece of clothing, or worst of all a phone call from someone that sends a rush of feeling over you like this warm tingling sensation that fills your brain with self doubt and regret. We begin to wonder if we really made the right decision to pack those bags, change that lock, and break the bond between the two of you that was once so strong.
Now you find yourself with these old feelings coming back stronger and faster than before. It is almost like the relationship never ended. Suddenly, it’s like the past never happened. All the lies, hurtful slurs, and the anger disappear. For a few moments you truly realize why you once loved that person and how much you truly miss them.
Now you must ask yourself: Is this something that I want in my future, or is this something that is better left in my past? Now that all the anger and pain have disappeared, should you try it again or just look back with a fondness that will never die? Can there be too much past to move past? Meaning that it’s nice to look back and let go of the anger, but can you ever really go back?
That’s the tough question, and the answer is going to be different for everyone. For me personally, this was one of the toughest decisions I have made in a long time. The answer for me was to move forward with my life and never look back with any kind of regret. Regret is the signal of an unhappy life, and as hard as it may be to accept…sometimes some things are just better left in the past forever. Don’t get me wrong: don’t ever forget that person, and learn from the mistakes that both you and your former partner made, but then leave the relationship where it belongs…in the past.
If you should decide not to take my advice and try to rekindle an old flame then I wish you the best. Hopefully things will work out better for you. Just remember two things…Never settle for second best, and of course the words to live by, “Remember if they are reckless with your heart then they were never worthy of your heart from the start.”
Love ya Bitches
Adam
Some Flames Never Die
As humans, we all make mistakes and have things or people in our pasts that we would like to forget. Sometimes we want to get away from those feelings and need a fresh start. We may even move to a new city to get a fresh start. We tell ourselves that we have learned from our mistakes and we are in turn better, stronger, and happier people because of our past mistakes. So why does it seem that sometimes our past lives come back to bite us.
It could be a song, a smell, a piece of clothing, or worst of all a phone call from someone that sends a rush of feeling over you like this warm tingling sensation that fills your brain with self doubt and regret. We begin to wonder if we really made the right decision to pack those bags, change that lock, and break the bond between the two of you that was once so strong.
Now you find yourself with these old feelings coming back stronger and faster than before. It is almost like the relationship never ended. Suddenly, it’s like the past never happened. All the lies, hurtful slurs, and the anger disappear. For a few moments you truly realize why you once loved that person and how much you truly miss them.
Now you must ask yourself: Is this something that I want in my future, or is this something that is better left in my past? Now that all the anger and pain have disappeared, should you try it again or just look back with a fondness that will never die? Can there be too much past to move past? Meaning that it’s nice to look back and let go of the anger, but can you ever really go back?
That’s the tough question, and the answer is going to be different for everyone. For me personally, this was one of the toughest decisions I have made in a long time. The answer for me was to move forward with my life and never look back with any kind of regret. Regret is the signal of an unhappy life, and as hard as it may be to accept…sometimes some things are just better left in the past forever. Don’t get me wrong: don’t ever forget that person, and learn from the mistakes that both you and your former partner made, but then leave the relationship where it belongs…in the past.
If you should decide not to take my advice and try to rekindle an old flame then I wish you the best. Hopefully things will work out better for you. Just remember two things…Never settle for second best, and of course the words to live by, “Remember if they are reckless with your heart then they were never worthy of your heart from the start.”
Love ya Bitches
Adam